He Cheated, She Cheated, We Cheated

Women Speak About Infidelity


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About the Book

Infidelity raises questions: Why do women stay with a cheater? Why do women cheat? Why do women become “the Other Woman”? How do past experiences with infidelity impact future relationships? Drawing on interviews with U.S. women of various ages, racial backgrounds, educational attainments, and sexual orientations, this insightful study examines their personal experiences of being cheated on, cheating, being the Other Woman, or some combination of the three. Always engaging and equal parts uplifting and dispiriting, their narratives range from all-too-familiar stories to unconventional perspectives on love, life, and interpersonal communication.

About the Author(s)

Ebony A. Utley, Ph.D. is a professor of communication studies at California State University–Long Beach. As an entrepreneur, she develops and consults on technologies to improve romantic relationships. She is also a certified yoga instructor who believes in the power of yoga to help women heal from trauma and infidelity.

Bibliographic Details

Ebony A. Utley

Format: softcover (6 x 9)
Pages: 264
Bibliographic Info: notes, bibliography, index
Copyright Date: 2019
pISBN: 978-1-4766-7577-0
eISBN: 978-1-4766-3750-1
Imprint: McFarland

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xi
Introduction 1
Section One: I Was the Last to Know That My Partner Cheated on Me 9
Section Two: I Experienced “Infidelity Plus” 44
Section Three: I Cheated on My Partner 86
Section Four: I Was the Other Woman 123
Section Five: We Cheated on Each Other; It’s Complicated 167
Section Six: I’ve Experienced Multiple Aspects of Infidelity in Multiple Relationships 199
Conclusion: Infidelity’s Secrets 231
Section Notes 239
Bibliography 243
Online Resources 247
Index 249

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